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Do the Conflict Quiz… Find out how you deal with conflict and get tips to change for the better!
1. You get barged by someone in the queue, how do you respond?
a) I let it go
b) I address the person politely and try to get them to see my point of view
c) I lose control and reach aggressively
2. Someone steps on your trainers, what do you do?
a) Nothing
b) Inform the person and ask them to be mindful
c) Start shouting and throw a punch
3. Someone comes into your room without asking what do you do?
a) Leave it and don’t complain
b) Explain the importance of your own space and request that they ask before coming in next time
c) Hurl abuse and complain loudly
4. A police officer stops and searches you. What do you do?
a) Provide the information required and feel irritated but don’t say anything
b) Co-operate politely but ask why am I being stopped
c) Start mouthing off at the injustice
5. Someone eats your food. What do you do?
a) Go hungry in silence
b) Look for the person and ask them to give you money for what they ate
c) Seek revenge, complain and eat everyone else’s food
6. You hear your mate has been talking about you behind your back. What do you do?
a) I feel upset but continue as usual
b) Put to your friend what you have heard
c) Dislike the friend and tell them you can’t believe what they’ve done
7. You believe your teacher has marked you down. What do you do?
a) Accept the grade and feel gutted
b) Speak to the teacher. Ask them to go through the paper with you and explain why you got the mark you got
c) Confront the teacher, demand why they are always giving you bad grades, ask them if they have a problem with you
8. There is someone playing their music too loud on the bus. What do you do?
a) Leave it, its not a big deal
b) Speak to the person, informing them it’s a public bus and ask them politely if they’d turn it down
c) Crank up the volume on your music
9. Two of your friends have a big argument and it has started to become physical – what do you do?
a) Nothing. Avoid it. Walk away
b) Decide whether you judge it safe to intervene. If you do intervene remain neutral and try to calm down both sides so they can talk about it rationally
c) Pick a side and egg on the fight
10. You hear that your friend is going to go fight – what do you do?
a) worry quietly to myself and remain absent
b) contact them and explore consequences with them
c) spread the word…
If you answered mostly a) you are the silent one.
Its good you stay out of trouble but you may be bottling things up and need to practice being assertive in some situations or your mates may start seeing you as a wet blanket who can be pushed around. Arguments and discussions aren’t always negative and handled the right way can lead to positive change.
If you answered mostly b) you are the sorter.
You are good at asserting yourself and helpful when it’s needed. Be careful not to be a ‘have a go hero’ in a conflict you are out of your depth in, Don’t be afraid to walk away if needs must.
If you answered mostly b) you are the shouter.
You’re certainly confident and confront situations head on. However these confrontations may be leading to more harmful consequences to yourself and others. Practice getting your point across without offending or hurting people.
